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Admitting That I Can’t Do It All

by Meghann on May 24, 2013

I have a bit of an announcement to make. After 4 years of planning the annual Healthy Living Summit, I’ve decided to step away. The event will still go on under the guidance of Julie and Heather but, sadly, I will not be a part of it.

The truth is life has been a little crazy lately. With the busy season for my new job in full effect, training for Ironman Florida, figuring out life as a newlywed, maintaining this blog, and still finding time for myself, it was clear something had to be dropped. As much as I loved being a part of the Healthy Living Summit year after year, I knew I couldn’t devote myself to planning as I have in the past.

I have faith that Julie and Heather will continue with the legacy that Kath, Tina, Caitlin, Jenna, Heather, and I started over 4 years ago and put on a great event. I wish them the best and can’t wait to see what great things are in store for Healthy Living Summit 2013.


It actually feels like a huge weight has been lifted from my shoulders. The truth is I’m still trying to find a happy work/life/training/blogging balance. It’s something that I currently struggle with, but am working on by taking it one day at a time. Please don’t look for me to answers on how to balance it all, because I have no idea. I’m seriously making it up as I go…. but isn’t that what we all do? Never trust someone who says they have it all figured out; they’re 100% lying. πŸ˜‰

Last night I was lucky enough to have my first night of sleep that was longer than 6 hours in weeks. I slept like a rock for 9 hours and it felt great. Today was a much needed “me” day, spent playing catch up with emails, then hitting the road for a 2 hour bike ride and short run.


It was HOT out there, but I loved having the trail all to myself.

I’m spending the rest of the day running much needed errands. My friend Emily is getting married in October (yay!!!) and I really need to go buy my bridesmaid dress (she’s only been sending me polite reminders for weeks now. no biggie). I might also stop at a coffee shop and just read a magazine for an hour. That sounds nice.

I’m also looking forward to spending the long weekend with my husband doing absolutely nothing. We don’t get to spend nearly enough time together during the week and I always miss him like crazy during the day. I’ve started staying up later in the evenings just so I can spend an extra hour with him.   

What are your plans for the long weekend? Anything exciting? (in my book, staying at home is exciting πŸ˜‰ )

1 Michael Anderson May 24, 2013 at 3:16 pm

No one has it all figured out. I’ve been married 21 years, have two teen boys, and so on … and it is a constant juggling act. I had one thought at a suggestion, then I read –

“spending the long weekend with my husband doing absolutely nothing.”

And smiled: you have to take care of what is most important. And that is to NEVER assume that you can put off your marriage until it is convenient ‘because they love you’. I know too many people who tried to ‘have it all’, many of whose lives are now shambles because the home life is seldom the squeaky wheel – it is work and travel and whatever else. So good for you on prioritizing your marriage πŸ™‚
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2 Karen May 24, 2013 at 3:28 pm

Staying home is way exciting to me, too! :0) Hope you have a nice, relaxing, enjoyable weekend!
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3 Beth @ Mangoes and Miles May 24, 2013 at 3:35 pm

I’m sure the Health Living Summit will miss you! I’ve never been, but I do know that it can be hard to step away from something you’re so committed to, so kudos to you for that. You have to do what’s best for you!

My weekend is going to be pretty low-key (just the way I like it!). Tomorrow I get to see one of my best friends from middle school whom I haven’t seen in two years, so I’m excited for that!
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4 The Many Thoughts of a Reader May 24, 2013 at 3:38 pm

My daughter turns 2 tomorrow so we have her bday party and then nothingggggggggggg.
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5 Katie May 24, 2013 at 3:46 pm

The fact you can still train that huge of race and work a full time my eyes you got it figured out! I’m glad to see you aren’t over stressing yourself and spending time with your new hubs πŸ™‚ Have a relaxing weekend!

6 Elisabeth May 24, 2013 at 4:07 pm

My best friend’s bridal shower & bachelorette party are this weekend. I’m looking forward to the shower since I planned it πŸ˜‰ …but I think I’d rather be home doing nothing than a bachelorette party. Ha!

7 Presh May 24, 2013 at 4:13 pm

There comes a time when you realize you just can’t do it all.
& that’s okay. I glad you understand and realize it now
before you went banana’s! I agree that no one truly knows how to balance it all.
My long weekend will be spent studying and taking an exam. Bah humbug!
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8 Courtney May 24, 2013 at 4:51 pm

Oh, that work/life/workout balance is always a work in progress for me. Kudos to you for realizing that something has to go before your sanity does. πŸ˜› My momma’s birthday is this weekend, so I plan on celebrating with her.
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9 Chelsea @ Designs on Dinner May 24, 2013 at 5:16 pm

I have no plans yet, and I absolutely love it! I’m looking forward to some quality time with my husband as well as my family and friends. Staying home is fun, sometimes!
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10 Mary May 24, 2013 at 5:17 pm

You are human!!! Juggling everything, especially as a woman is incredibly difficult! There is so much pressure on us to hold down a job, be good partners/wives, eat well, exercise and look good, take care of the house and our families and be good daughters…how does anybody ever fit everything in?! Although HLS is a small part of you you will always know that you had several fantastic years organising and being such a large part of the event. You enjoyed those years and didn’t spend time resenting it for taking you away from your family or life. It’s better to walk away now before you do end up resenting it. I think you’ve made the right decision, even if it was incredibly hard. Enjoy some time off this weekend! πŸ™‚
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11 Annette @FitnessPerks May 24, 2013 at 5:18 pm

Yep, balance is something we all strive for-allllll the time πŸ™‚ No one is perfect. Kudos to you for recognizing where you can let something go!

Enjoy the weekend!
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12 Karen May 24, 2013 at 5:37 pm

Admitting you can’t do it all is a huge accomplishment. I have a hard time admitting that all the time. Enjoy your “me day”! And I’m with you, a night in doing nothing is very exciting!
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13 Debbie B. May 24, 2013 at 5:40 pm

I have a full time job and just trying to train for a marathon and spend time with the husband was stressful. I don’t know how you find time to blog but I appreciate every word you write. The HLS will miss you but you are leaving it in good hands. Enjoy the weekend. Maybe get to the beach? Iknow I plan on going.

14 Michelle May 24, 2013 at 5:45 pm

I’ve figured out that the secret to doing it all is not sleeping and drinking a lot of wine. Oh, and redefining what “doing it all” really means. πŸ™‚
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15 Alicia at Poise in Parma May 24, 2013 at 5:53 pm

A solid decision, and you’re leaving it in the hands of two very capable ladies. Enjoy your holiday weekend, your husband and the down time.
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16 Lisa May 24, 2013 at 6:05 pm

Enjoy your weekend! Tomorrow AM my husband and sister are running in the Spring Lake 5 (a 5 mile run held every Memorial Day Weekend in Spring Lake, NJ). There are over 10,000 people that run it. I am not a runner, but will be there to cheer them on. It’s a fun kick-off to the holiday weekend. Other than that, my husband and I don’t have a lot going on and are just going to take it day by day … sometimes weekends like that end up being the best kind. πŸ™‚
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17 Andrea R. @ Morning Runner Girl May 24, 2013 at 8:33 pm

Decisions like these are always so hard and scary to make, but I wanted to say congratulations and good luck with everything! This clearly wasn’t easy, but I commend you for listening to your heart, body, and head! So often we ignore telling signs that life is wearing us down.

Dont’ every look back on your decision! I am so happy for you and can’t wait to continue to read about your ironman training : ) You are going to have a great summer and life!!
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18 Katie @ Talk Less, Say More May 24, 2013 at 8:50 pm

Props to you for recognizing, understanding and accepting that you can’t do it all and then DOING something about it! I have no doubt HLS will be fantastic in their hands! πŸ™‚
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19 Heather May 24, 2013 at 9:25 pm

Awe kind of sad a little. Really seems like a lifetime ago. I know how much you loved doing this, so I’m sure it wasn’t an easy choice. I know HLS is in excellent hands.

20 Wendy May 24, 2013 at 11:53 pm

Hi Meghann, I was wondering if you read the book Lean In by Sheryl Sandburg (CFO of Facebook)? Her book is directly relevant to women who want to “have it all” or to achieve a certain level of success. While her point of view isn’t all necessarily applicable to all women, she claims that women can achieve everything she wants through “closing the ambition gap between men and women” and erasing gender inequality in terms of marriage, housework, and children. What do you think in regards to this perspective? I recently had to write an academic paper around this discussion. Thanks for your thoughts!

21 Rachel Wilkerson May 26, 2013 at 7:10 am

Just chiming in to say I read it (well, listened to it on audiobook) a few weeks ago and even though she got a lot of crap for it, I thought it was really great. Her points about your choice in partner being the most important career decision you’ll ever make really resonated with me. I certainly couldn’t do “it all” (or nearly as much as I do) without a partner who was willing to split the chores 50-50 and sometimes take on extra when I need him to. I think this book is definitely worth reading for young women, even if you aren’t thinking about kids any time soon!
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22 Jan @ Sprouts n Squats May 25, 2013 at 2:49 am

Sounds like you definitely needed to step back and have some you time πŸ™‚

This weekend is not a long weekend here in Australia but we have one in 2 weeks time which will be nice. So far I’ve been out for brunch, done some photography and just got back from a massage it has been great.
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23 Frances May 25, 2013 at 5:22 am

I’m so glad you’re going to have some downtime to spend with your hubby! You seem to have been so busy the last few weeks and you guys both deserve a long weekend. I work full time, juggle kids activities, and manage the household, and its easy to forget to slow down and enjoy each other as a couple. Enjoy your weekend! πŸ™‚

24 beka @ rebecca roams May 25, 2013 at 9:46 am

HLS will miss you! But it’ll survive fantastically.
I completely understand the (un)balancing act! I’ve stepped away from the blog considerably since my cruise and this past week after to try and realign life/work/blog/training and slowly add things back in. I am actually working today – and working Monday. No long weekend for me πŸ™ womp womp.
ENJOY the time off- the coffee shop/magazine idea sounds awesome right about now!!!
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25 Hayley @ Running on Pumpkin May 25, 2013 at 10:46 am

I love that you admit that you don’t have this whole balance thing all figured out and anyone who says they do is lying πŸ™‚ Good for you for knowing when you need to step away from something rather than spreading yourself too thin. And I’m sure the HLS team will miss you but understands completely!
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26 Megan May 25, 2013 at 10:57 am

One of my favorite quotes “You can do anything but not everything”. It’s so true!

27 Natalie @ Free Range Human May 25, 2013 at 11:06 am

I agree! A night at home with my husband are always my favorite πŸ™‚

28 Renee May 25, 2013 at 3:53 pm

I’m proud of you that you realize you can’t do it all. You do so much and it’s ok to let some things go. Enjoy your day.
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29 Sarah May 25, 2013 at 3:56 pm

so proud of you meghann! πŸ™‚ you are such a great role model. glad you’re admitting that you can’t do it all because i’m sure all of us struggle with that. can’t wait to meet you one day! this weekend, i’m starting my job at Disney world! πŸ˜€
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30 Rachel Wilkerson May 26, 2013 at 7:12 am

Downtime is SO important. I totally feel ya on the just wanting to read a magazine thing. Good for you for knowing when you need to say no!
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31 Amanda @ Peanut Butter and Adrenaline May 26, 2013 at 11:31 am

I’m glad you realized that you can’t do it all, even if you want to. It’s such an important lesson to learn. I know it’s one I’m still learning every day. And yeah, I definitely get the needing downtime. That’s what most of this weekend will be, and I am ridiculously excited about it. Enjoy your downtime and training and everything else πŸ™‚
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32 Meghan @ After the Ivy League May 27, 2013 at 11:04 am

Balancing a full-time job with training of any kind, blogging, and actually having a life outside of blogging is such a challenge. I know exactly how you feel. You’re right, no one has it 100% figured out, just taking things one day at a time and trying to get everything done. Reading a magazine in a coffee shop for an hour sounds like pure bliss to me!
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33 Chris June 1, 2013 at 11:39 am

Isn’t it great when we can finally admit to ourselves that we’re not super-humans that can handle everything that comes our way? It’s quite liberating. A full life is the way to live, but not overly full. When it’s over-stuffed, we just end up missing all the quality in between, at which point we might as well just save ourselves some trouble and keep it totally empty! πŸ˜€ You are right about balance. It’s different for all of us, but it is the key…and you will find it.

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