Fact: my siblings and I are very competitive
Oh, don’t get me wrong, we’re the very best of friends and love each other more than you could imagine, but that doesn’t mean we don’t enjoy coming in 10 seconds before the others in a big race. 😉
You could probably trace back our sibling rivalry tendencies to when we were kids. My parents used to use it to their advantage and pit us against each other in fun contests – who can bring in the most grocery bags at one time? who can clean their room the fastest? who can beat who in a race around the house? One of us would revel in a small victory while my parents enjoyed having their groceries brought in and house cleaned in record speed; +10 for Mom and Dad. 😉
When it comes to racing, my sister and I are usually pretty neck and neck with our abilities. Depending on the day, the race, how either of us have trained, or how we feel; we usually take turns with who has the lead. We’ve been known to catch up to each other in a race and we’ve also been known to pass one another, or let the other go ahead if the other is having a bad race. You can probably look back at every race we’ve done together and see where we swap off taking the lead every other time.
At Miami 70.3 a couple of weeks ago Kelly told me afterwards that knowing I was behind her during the run is what pushed her to keep the pace she was at, not walk, and finish without regrets (because she wanted to beat me). I told her that having her in front of me was what pushed me forward, too (because I wanted to beat her 😉 ). Without one of us pushing the other, I bet our run times would have been a lot slower for the race.
With Ben, he blows both Kelly and I out of the water on the bike, but we can usually take him on the run. However, I bet if he worked a little more on speed training he could give Kelly and I both a run for our money with our run times. He has speed there, he just needs to really hone in on it and push it.
Even though the three of us are competitive with each other, we always keep that competitiveness in a positive light by ALWAYS encouraging each other and NEVER getting mad at the other for taking a lead or coming in first. Instead, we thrive on that competitiveness and use it as a way to push each to our full potential by setting higher goals that we realize we can achieve because the other did it. Without my sister I probably would never have run my first 5k, it was when I saw her do it that I realized I could do it too. The same thing for my sister and the marathon, it was after I ran my first marathon that she realized it wasn’t as scary as it seemed. I also think that’s why Ben got into running and triathlons, he saw all the fun we were having and didn’t want to miss out. 🙂
The truth is, when we’re racing each other, none of us lose – we all win. We might fight for that faster time or to finish first, but even if it doesn’t happen – that’s okay – because we’re proud of each other. We’re all winners because we’re all out there together, as a family, having fun. We joke about beating the other, but that’s because we’re family and that’s what we do. We push each other to be the best we can be, then celebrate along the way.
Are your siblings competitive? Do they inspire you to push your limits?