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Relationships and Holidays

by Meghann on December 22, 2011

This holiday season marks mine and Derek’s third Christmas together.



Since my family is in Titusville on the east coast and his family is Tampa on the west coast, we are often asked “how do you two plan to split Christmas this year?”

I’ll be honest. I’m selfish with my holidays. I’m ridiculously close to my family and the idea of spending any part of Christmas eve or Christmas day without them makes me want to cry. Deep down I’m still a little kid who wants to wake up in my childhood room on Christmas day and run downstairs to see what Santa left everyone overnight. I know as our family grows and expands, it’s an ideal that won’t last much longer, so I want to hold onto it as long as I can.

Luckily Derek understands my selfishness and over the last couple of holiday seasons we’ve worked out a time splitting arrangement that makes us both happy. My family tends to go all out for Christmas eve (exhibit A, B, & C), while Derek’s family celebrates more on actual Christmas Day, so that makes it easy for us.

I’m heading to my parents’ place this afternoon to prep for ‘X-Mas Baking Fest ’11‘ with my sister. We plan to spend all of Friday making cookies, pies, and other Christmas treats for Saturday and Sunday. Derek plans to drive over as soon as he leaves work Friday night to join us.

Saturday morning we’re having brunch at my Uncle’s to celebrate Christmas with my Dad’s side of the family. That evening my Mom will host her annual Christmas eve gathering with family and friends. And Christmas eve night we’ll sleep in my old childhood bedroom.
Early Christmas morning we’ll run downstairs to open presents with my family and wrap up Christmas on the east coast with breakfast at my Grandmother’s house with my Mom’s side of the family.

After those festivities are over, we’ll drive over to Tampa to celebrate the rest of Christmas Day at Derek’s parents’ house. We’ll join his grandparents and aunt for his parents’ annual big Christmas feast full of all the traditional Christmas day fix’ins. Yum. πŸ™‚

It’s going to be a busy Christmas weekend, but it will also be a fun one. This is the same schedule of events we had last year and it worked out perfectly. Luckily none of our traditions overlap on one another, so we can still see everyone we love without making any sacrifices.

we’re also extremely fortunate to both have so much family nearby. That also makes the holidays a little easier.

How do you and your significant other celebrate the holidays?

Today’s lunch:


Grilled cheese with thick cuts of Cabot Extra Sharp White Cheddar Cheese (<- love this stuff!), green olives, spinach, and hummus between two slices of Publix Whole Wheat Seeded bakery bread.


And a side of cashews, blackberries, and cherry tomatoes (trying to finish off the containers).



1 Sana December 22, 2011 at 1:54 pm

Mumm, I love love loveeee Cabot cheese!
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2 Caitlin C. December 22, 2011 at 1:54 pm

That lunch looks so, so amazing. Especially that yummy bread. I can’t wait to be back into the land of PUBLIX in just a few days! The cheese, olives, spinach, and hummus sound so wonderful together. Mmmm.
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3 Janine @ThePurpleGiraffe December 22, 2011 at 1:56 pm

Thankfully our parents live close enough that we see everyone, even though it means running around like crazy.

For Thanksgiving, we alternate years, one set of parents gets dinner while the other gets dessert.

For Christmas Eve, we will see my dad’s side of the family at 12noon, his dad’s extended family at 5pm and then his dad’s house at 8pm.

Christmas day, we will see his mom’s side of the family for Christmas morning, my parents for Christmas dinner at 2:30pm, then my mom’s side of the family at 7pm for dessert. (this alternates too, every other year, the other set of parents gets Christmas morning…)

It’s a pain, but it’s the “only fair way” – until we have kids… ugh.
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4 Mary @ food and fun on the run December 22, 2011 at 1:57 pm

My husbands family is coming to stay with us for Christmas. My parents already live in town, so we are going to be doing 1 big Christmas with both of our families. I am sooo excited we are not leaving town at all for the holidays! It makes it a lot more relaxing πŸ™‚
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5 Mary December 22, 2011 at 1:58 pm

Your holiday traditions (and Derek’s) sound so SANE compared to what my husband and I go through every year. 2-3 stops on Christmas Eve (leave home around 2pm – return home around 2am) and 2-3 stops on Christmas Day (leave home around 10am – return home around 8pm). Plus, we have family birthdays on either side of the 24th & 25th. It’s non-stop for 4 days! We’ve determined that the only way to avoid this is to move out of state!
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6 Hillary December 22, 2011 at 1:58 pm

My boyfriend’s parents both live in Florida, but his mom’s family celebrates Xmas back in her hometown in Rhode Island, so he’s kind of all over the place during the holidays. I’m Jewish, so it’s not a huge deal for me to spend the holiday with him, but I STILL haven’t celebrated Xmas with his family yet because I can’t afford all the plane tickets. We’ve been together for five years, so we decided that next year will be the year that I suck it up and spend the money—I really love his family and would love to share the holiday with them, so it’ll be worth it!

7 Sara December 22, 2011 at 1:59 pm

You are so lucky to have both families in the same state! My fiance and I have never spend actual Christmas day together because of the distance between our families and neither one of us wanting to give up our traditions. However now that we’re getting married it makes sense we need to figure out a plan that involves us staying together. So we’ll spend Christmas eve with his family, Christmas morning just the two of us, and the rest of Christmas day with my family.
Hopefully it works out!

8 Jess December 22, 2011 at 1:59 pm

In years past we’ve spent Christmas Eve and Christmas morning with my family before driving to my husband’s parents’ for Christmas afternoon and night. It’s worked for us in the past, but I know every couple is different and things change as families grow.
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9 Gina @ Running to the Kitchen December 22, 2011 at 2:02 pm

I was (and still am) incredibly selfish about the holidays too and until we were married, we never spent holidays together. Granted, my husband’s family doesn’t really celebrate anything (long, weird story with them) so on holidays since we’ve been married it’s always been spent with my side. His family is also split between NY and FL (mom in one place, dad in the other) so that adds to the confusion too. My brother and his gf are on their second year splitting holidays and I’ll be honest, (and this is no offense to you!) I don’t get it. To me, if you’re not engaged why split holidays? Just my opinion.
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10 Sarah December 22, 2011 at 2:06 pm

I’m really selfish too! As a member of a family of 7, I can’t imagine not seeing my sisters and brother on Christmas!
Luckily our families only live twenty minutes apart so we are doing Christmas Eve breakfast with his family, lunch and church with my family, and then possibly seeing his family again in the evening.

11 Krista December 22, 2011 at 2:07 pm

I’m pretty selfish with the holidays too, but my family lives close by, and the husband’s doesn’t. Until I hear him complaining about “not spending the holidays with his family” we’ll just continue spending it with mine!

12 Erin December 22, 2011 at 2:12 pm

I can’t remember the last time I celebrated Christmas on actual Christmas Day with my family. For the past few years we’ve gone to visit my husband’s family for Christmas, either in Arizona or in St. Louis (we live in Chicago). I used to hate not seeing my parents on Christmas Day but I’ve gotten used to it. This year we’re having Christmas with my side of the family on December 27th.

That grilled cheese looks tasty. Did you make it in the George Foreman?
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13 Meghann December 26, 2011 at 10:15 pm

Yep! George Foreman. πŸ™‚

14 Krissy @ Shiawase Life December 22, 2011 at 2:17 pm

My husband and I live far from both sides of our family, so we are choosing to spend it on a little trip together – to NYC! πŸ˜€

In the future, we may move closer to his family (Midwest) so we can cross that bridge when it comes. My family is overseas, so we like to meet up in different places (this year it was Thanksgiving in Hawaii)
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15 Allison December 22, 2011 at 2:18 pm

I’ve had to split my holiday’s between my momma and my dad since high school and this is the first year that I’m living with my Dear and his parents are also seperated so we have 4 different families to visit- talk about a packed Christmas eve and day! It makes me a little nervous thinking about it all and I hope that all our plans work out…
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16 Hope December 22, 2011 at 2:21 pm

The worst part about holidays is splitting them evenly. The worst holiday for us is Thanksgiving. I always want to spend Thanksgiving with my family because it’s so small. We try to divide up the day so we both get to spend time with both sides of our familes. Luckily, we celebrate Hanukkah so we have 8 days to see everyone πŸ™‚
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17 Carly December 22, 2011 at 2:26 pm

The benefit of being an interfaith couple: not much competition for holidays. πŸ™‚

It works out well…we do Rosh Hashanah, Yom Kippur, Passover, etc with my family, Easter and Christmas Eve with my wife’s family, and since her family all go to their in-laws on Christmas Day, we do “Jewish Christmas” with my family. Thanksgiving requires splitting, so we try to do every other year to make it equitable.

For those who haven’t experienced the fun, “Jewish Christmas” is simple-matinee movie, then chinese food. Best experienced in a group. πŸ™‚
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18 Jessica @ Sushi and Sit-Ups December 22, 2011 at 2:31 pm

I’ve always been selfish and perfectly happy with us going separate ways for Christmas. Now that we’re engaged, we’re trying to spend the holidays together, so we’re spending Christmas eve with his family and Christmas day with mine. We’re lucky that both of our families are in the same town, so it makes things pretty easy.
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19 Bonnie December 22, 2011 at 2:31 pm

Great post! I was going to write on something similar…I’m from California but married a Canadian and it’s always hard b/c we live with my husband’s parents, so it feels like we see them constantly when I wish time was more spread out evenly between both families. Although we’re not geographically THAT far away (my husband’s sister and her husband are in Mongolia!), flying for 2 out of Canada to anywhere is expensive (about $1,000) so that factors into our decisions each year too. So, we’re staying north for Christmas again! But hope in the future to celebrate US Thanksgiving with my family since it’d be cheaper to fly and because it’s more of a big deal than Canadian Thanksgiving. Balancing is hard, but we’re blessed by great families all around. πŸ˜€

Enjoy all your festivities! Sounds like an absolute blast.
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20 Army Amy* December 22, 2011 at 2:32 pm

Splitting the holidays can be tricky business! My husband and I have found a plan that works for us, but I know that it wouldn’t work for everyone. Every year we spend one holiday (Thanksgiving or Christmas) with just the two of us. The other holiday we spend with everyone! We’ll make a stop by my mom’s house, his mom’s house, and his dad’s house. Next year that will all change since we’ll be moving, but this has worked for us for the past 5 years.*
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21 Melissa December 22, 2011 at 2:43 pm

This has actually become a little bit of an issue with me and my boyfriend. We live together in Boston, where he grew up. His parents and most of his family live within 10 minutes of us and we have dinner with his parents almost once a week. They’re lovely people and very welcoming but they seem to be the selfish ones when it comes to holidays (especially Christmas and especially his Mom). She hosts everyone and plans the menus for all the meals for the 24th, 2th, and 26th months in advance and simply expects everyone to be there.

My parents and siblings (and my 4 month old niece!) are all down in the NJ/Philly area, where I grew up. I only get home a couple times a year as it is so there’s no way I’m missing Christmas with them to stay here and spend it with his family (who I already see so much).

Here’s the kicker: My Grandmother (with whom I was very close) passed away in October very suddenly and my family has been reeling. It’s going to be a very hard Christmas for all of us. I practically begged my boyfriend to come to NJ with me, but the best he was willing to do was to come down on the 26th. His sister is spending the 24th&25th with her husband’s family in Vermont and he feels he needs to be there for his Mom as she’s never had a Christmas without both of her kids.

I’m trying to let it go but I’m still kind of angry about it.
He BETTER be there next year.

22 Ashley December 22, 2011 at 2:47 pm

My husbands family makes a big deal out of Thanksgiving, so we spend Thanksgiving with his family, and then travel with my family for Christmas. Thankfully it worked out really well and everyone is always happy!
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23 Emily G. @ From My Messy Desk December 22, 2011 at 2:54 pm

My Christmas is already a bit wild bc of divorced families. Then my brother got married and we had to account for her wanting to be with them, too. On top of that, this is the first year a boy will be involved with my Christmas – we have his family, my mom’s side, my dad’s side, and the sis-in-law’s family. All I have to say is Dec 24th and 25th will be JAM packed and I can’t be more thankful that I’m off alllllll next week.
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24 Lara December 22, 2011 at 2:56 pm

Last year we did Thanksgiving with his family (who live in town) and Christmas with mine (different state), which we should have done again! We did Thanksgiving with mine and then found out that none of his family would be in town but he felt too guilty to leave his mom alone on Christmas so he’s staying for Christmas and I’ll be with my family, then he’ll join us for New Years. Neither of us are really upset about it, we aren’t super into holidays anyway. It always works out!

25 Corrie @ Blurb Column December 22, 2011 at 2:57 pm

My hubby and I have been together almost 20 years. Way back in the beginning we did what you are Derek are doing, my family Christmas Eve, his family Christmas Day. Later, after we had moved 2 hours away, we kept that up for a while, but eventually we started our own traditions. It was hard for both of our families to accept, but it is no longer assumed that we will be making the (now 6 hour) drive every year. Some years we stay home, some years we travel. Most of our parents don’t work, or are retired, so we started feeling like they could do a little more of the traveling. I am always open to having everyone here and doing the big dinner and whatnot. So for us, we keep our options open and choose each year what feels right for us.

26 Reenie December 22, 2011 at 3:01 pm

What a cute pic of you 3 =)

27 Amber @ Busy, Bold, Blessed December 22, 2011 at 3:03 pm

I was JUST thinking about this topic. We do a mix because our immediate families are close, but our extended live 1.5-2 hours in opposite directions from us. So our compromise has been my family for Thanksgiving, his family for Christmas Day. It’s definitely sad not seeing my fam on Christmas but it’s a compromise. I’m thinking this will be the last year I’m actually living at home, so I’m going to enjoy what could be my last come down the stairs to a ton of presents at my parents’ house!

That grilled cheese looks SUPER yummy!
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28 Cait @ Beyond Bananas December 22, 2011 at 3:06 pm

For the two Christmases my fiance (then boyfriend) and I have been together, we’ve just gone our separate ways for the holidays. This year, we are still splitting up – knowing it will be the last year we can spend all of the big holidays with our own families.
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29 Lucy @ Porridge and Parsnips December 22, 2011 at 3:14 pm

That sounds like a really good plan for Christmas – lots of family time! πŸ™‚

We’re really lucky that we live in the same town as both mine and my husband’s family. So we take it in turns which family we have lunch with. This year it is our turn to go to Liam’s family for lunch (at about 3pm), but my family will come round to our house in the morning for nibbles and to exchange gifts. We’ll also go to a nativity service at church with my family on Christmas Eve, and probably have brunch at my Mum’s house on Boxing Day.

Lots of time spent with all the family, which is great, but evenings still spent at home so that our children (& us!) have the chance to relax in between events πŸ™‚

Merry Christmas Meghann, I hope you and Derek both have a great one!

30 Lauri December 22, 2011 at 3:16 pm

The first year that we decided to spend holidays together we spent them with my family. The next year I knew it was his turn and I literally cried the entire ride to his parents house. Pity party for one! It wasn’t easy forgoing the traditions I had known my whole life (Huge Italian Christmas Eve dinner with my Dad’s side, Christmas morning breakfast with my mom’s side) but we were together and it was much better than I expected. Puts a wrench in things that we live 6 hours from his family, and 7 -8 from mine (they are about 3 hours from each other). A couple years we managed to fit both in, and when we first had our son we spent one Christmas with each side when he was 2 months, and 14 months old.

Now we stay put! We spend Christmas Eve with friends who are around and then have dinner out at a local restaurant (we walk!) with our neighbors and their daughter (who is our son’s little girlfriend). On christmas Day, it’s the 3 of us – We hunker down – open presents, eat coffee cake (a tradition I carried from my mom), skype with family…Then we have a big dinner, watch a movie and just RELAX! No traveling and no worries. I do sometims get sad that we don’t see our families but in another sad twist, a lot of the traditions on my side have changed anyway – The Italian Christmas Eve dinner doens’t happen anymore, as my Great Aunt is too old to make it work. And my grandmother passed away last year, whcih completely changes Christmas morning breakfast for me. So new generations take over, create new traditions and giving us space to create our own as well…
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31 Christine @ BookishlyB December 22, 2011 at 3:16 pm

For the last three years my husband and I have gone away alone for Christmas. We did Yosemite one year, Hawaii last year, and are leaving for San Francisco on Saturday. We usually celebrate with one family before and one after- no one gets hurt feelings and him and I get to get away alone. And for Thanksgiving we just switch off. It works for us! And that’s what it’s all about- finding something that makes both of you happy.
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32 Lauren @ Sassy Molassy December 22, 2011 at 3:17 pm

It is tough to balance the holiday traditions btwn two families. My bf is from Michigan so he went back there for a week and I opted not to go due to the cost, but we both flew back last year. It’s hard because I’d like him to be with me and enjoying my family’s festivities, but I’m really happy he gets to see his family. Plus, when we do get married and have kids it will probably be forced that we’re both together for xmas. πŸ™‚
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33 Matteson @ Healthy High Schooler December 22, 2011 at 3:27 pm

Your grilled cheese looks delicious! yumm.
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34 Lindsey December 22, 2011 at 3:32 pm

Don’t worry I am selfish too πŸ˜‰ But like you, we are lucky and our families celebrate Christmas on different days, and this will be out 10th Christmas together and its always worked out. Now we are married and we do Christmas Eve/Day at our house so both our families come over.
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35 Chris December 22, 2011 at 3:40 pm

My hubby is from a Jewish background so Xmas is easy – we spend it with my family and make a trip to his at some point in Dec or Jan for a holiday visit (they don’t make too much of a fuss about the holiday, but we still like to see them for it). Thanksgiving became a lot easier when we decided to combine forces and do it all together! It’s really nice b/c it’s one of the few times our families get to see each other and they get along really well. I feel very lucky!
This is our first married Xmas, so we are opting to spend the eve at friends, the morning just us and then heading to my parents. In the past we would do both the eve and day with my family.

36 Lisa (bakebikeblog) December 22, 2011 at 3:46 pm

It is always hard to fit everyone in. We tend to do alternative Christmases – ie. one year with my family (who are interstate) – and the next with my husbands!
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37 Dani December 22, 2011 at 3:47 pm

I’m super selfish w/ my holidays too, but until he puts a ring on it, i’ll be spending them how i want to, without compromise!

years 1-4 we went our separate ways for christmas, years 5 and 6 he came to my parents, and this year, year 7 i’m at my parents and he’s visiting other family. unfortunately, our parents live 5+ hours apart, so sharing the holidays isn’t easy. we live in the same town that his parents live in though, so my argument is that we see them weekly and i don’t get to see my family that often.

38 Leanne @ The Skinny Architect December 22, 2011 at 3:50 pm

I am super selfish when it comes to the holidays. I am an only child and my mom is a single parent so I feel like I would be abandoning her if I left her, especially for Christmas. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 Christmases now and we have yet to spend a single one together. He came to my house for Thanksgiving this year, which I felt like was kind of a big deal. It makes it easier to spend holidays apart because we actually live 2 hours apart all the time. Someday I hope to live in the same city, that would be nice. πŸ™‚
Safe travels and Merry Christmas!
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39 Mandy December 22, 2011 at 4:19 pm

Unfortunately our families live about 5 hours apart so can’t see both on Christmas day. His family doesn’t celebrate Christmas that much so we spend Christmas with my family and New Year’s with his family. It’s perfect for me!

40 Laura December 22, 2011 at 4:36 pm

OMG MADDIE!!!!!!! Too cute.

We haven’t had issues splitting holidays, though we’ve only had to split 2. My family has always done early Thanksgiving dinner (like 2 PM) and his family does late because his step dad always has to work. Then my family has always done Christmas Eve while his family does Christmas day. I’m lucky that we don’t have any drama. The biggest worry is what our dogs will eventually pee on.
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41 Vikki December 22, 2011 at 4:50 pm

My sister in law is really selfish with the holiday time. It makes my family really sad because my brother isn’t coming home for the holidays until the day after Christmas. I can’t get off from work so I won’t get to spend anytime with my brother. I know that you love your family, but please consider that Derek’s family loves him too and probably would love to have Christmas morning with him as well.

42 Vikki December 22, 2011 at 5:01 pm

I should note that I am probably projecting. His family might be totally okay with it since you’re going back for Christmas day.

I feel like spending the entire holiday with my sister-in-law’s family and making no effort to see me is saying that my brother loves his new people more than he loves me and it makes me feel sad. It says that he loves his new family more than he loves his old one.

43 Annette @ EnjoyYourHealthyLife December 22, 2011 at 5:01 pm

mmmm that lunch looks awesome!

My husband’s fam is in a totally different state so we’re good. We switch off T-day and Christmas each year–so far so good!
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44 maclane December 22, 2011 at 5:37 pm

I share some food and love and take the opportunity to spend some quality time with those close to me.

45 Emily December 22, 2011 at 5:39 pm

My husband and I live in Colorado, while our families live in Ohio and Pennsylvania. We’ve been able to visit both families over the holidays. Then, we celebrate each family’s traditions while we’re with them. (For instance, we’re having fake New Year’s Day with my parents on Dec. 26, since we won’t be with them on the actual day.) We’ll do my husband’s family’s Christmas Eve traditions during our visit with them later in the holidays. I feel very lucky that neither family expects us to be there for specific dates and are happy to see us whenever we’re able to come.

46 Melissa @TryingtoHeal December 22, 2011 at 6:06 pm

Well, I guess I lucked out since my bf’s family lives on an island…kinda hard to get there. He ended up going to have Christmas at his house a few weeks early so he could be here for my family’s this year (last year he spent the $$$$ to go see his family on Christmas but didn’t want to pay that much this year). In the future though…who knows! I guess it all depends on where we live: CA or HI?!
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47 Meg at December 22, 2011 at 7:53 pm

My BF and I also do lots of running around for holidays! For thanksgiving, our families are 2 hours apart, but lucky his has dinner at 1, and mine at 6. So we double up, digesting in the car. For Christmas, the families are farther apart, since his are down south by that time. We still split up christmas day, since neither are ready to give up family traditions quite yet! So we are with my family before christmas, he goes down south the 23rd, I go the 26th, and then we stay down South until New Years. It’s been working the past 2 years, but eventually we’ll have to work something out for staying together on Christmas!
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48 chelsey @ clean eating chelsey December 22, 2011 at 8:10 pm

Holidays with a spouse is always such a compromise – and not one that I want to make. However, I love my Husband so we do it. We do two Christmases and two Thanksgivings so we can spend time with both families.
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49 Katie @ Peace Love and Oats December 22, 2011 at 8:36 pm

My brother and his wife are lucky because Thanksgiving is a big deal for her family and Christmas is a big deal for us, so that’s how they split the holidays!
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50 erica December 22, 2011 at 10:00 pm

we normally have a christmas eve dinner with the husband’s extended family, then we open gifts and have brunch with my family christmas morning and then we have christmas dinner with his parents that night.
it’s a pretty good split. πŸ™‚
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51 Liz December 23, 2011 at 1:09 am

Relationships and holidays can definitely be SO hard to figure out. We finally came up with a system where each year, we spend Thanksgiving with one family and Christmas with the other, and then the following year, we swap.

It’s worked out pretty well actually even though it’s hard to miss some years with my family.
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52 Dione December 23, 2011 at 2:55 am

I used to be that way about Christmas and all holidays until I started my career as a med lab tech ten years ago. I miss lots of holidays because of work, and it doesn’t bother me at all…in fact I prefer it now:). I’m on the night shift through Christmas and Boxing Day, and I can’t complain about making 85 dollars and 65 dollars an hour respectively.:)

53 Allie December 23, 2011 at 2:57 am

I was just thinking about this and how much harder it gets as you get older.

We’re spending Christmas eve with my family. We have my brother’s godparents come over with my cousins and that’s been our tradition since I was about 6 or 7 so that will not change plus my bf’s fam doesn’t do anything Christmas eve.

Christmas day we’re opening presents at our respective homes in the a.m. Then around 10, I’m heading over to his family’s house for a huge breakfast with his aunts, uncles and cousins. Around 4:00 we’ll head over to spend the evening with my family.

We both still live at home until hopefully next year when we buy our first home. Then it would be great to host something at our place.

54 Katie @ Talk Less, Say More December 23, 2011 at 8:35 am

Since I’m single and never dated anyone where we were ready to consider holidays together, this isn’t something that I’ve had to think about. But I do always find it interesting to see how my friends handle it as they get to those points in their relationships with their significant others. Your family sounds like mine where Christmas is a HUGE family party-fest with lots of events. It’s that you are both able to spend time with your family and taking part in the traditions, while still getting to be together on those days. πŸ™‚

Unfortunately what keeps me away from my family during the holidays….living in LA and working in retail. πŸ™
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55 Kim December 23, 2011 at 10:22 am

I love Maddie in this picture. She’s so cute! Those antlers crack me up! lol

56 Sally Kate December 23, 2011 at 12:13 pm

oh my gosh- that grilled cheese just made my mouth water!!! this year my boyfriend and i are both away from our parents, but we enjoyed thanksgiving with his family friend’s who were visiting in colorado and christmas eve we are spending with my brother and his family, which is just a few hours away. it was a scramble getting everyone’s gifts shipped this past week, but it definitly felt like christmas when we had three deliveries last night full of christmas presents from everyone!
ps- dont feel too sorry for me- i planned christmas this way so that i could talk my family into celebrating late by going with me to orlando for the disney world half in january :):)
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57 Jennifer L December 23, 2011 at 1:37 pm

I LOVE your big family holiday posts! I can see why you wouldn’t want to change it… when I was younger we had huge holidays as well, but then everyone sort of moved or started doing other things for the holidays. I miss it a lot. So I like to see yours!

58 Marika December 29, 2011 at 4:48 am

I had to let go of the Christmas-must-be-spent-at-home mentality when I moved to Europe (my family’s in Maryland). Some years they’ve made it here to celebrate with me but the past few years Christmas has been spent with my fiance’s family (once in Estonia and twice in their home in Finland). It can be really fun to see Christmas from a different perspective and learn about the traditions of another family or culture :). Plus in this part of the world we usually have a white Christmas, which is nice!

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