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Alarms and Dogs

by Meghann on May 5, 2011

Good Morning! πŸ™‚

I think living with Derek and having Maddie has provided me with a tiny glimpse on what it will be like to have kids some day.

Most days mine and Derek’s alarm clocks are set for the same time. Sometimes he has to be at work early and his goes off first and sometimes I have to be up early and my alarm is first. On the mornings when I have to get up early, it isn’t a big deal. I wake up, I immediately take Maddie out, and I get ready for my day (in the separate bedroom, so I don’t wake him up.)

On days when Derek wakes up early – he get’s up, goes straight to the shower, and leaves Maddie to jump all over me until I get up to take her out.

Not cool, Derek. Not cool. πŸ˜›

I should probably put a side note here that, since moving in with Derek, Maddie has remained 100% my responsibility. Unless I’m not home for what-ever reason, I’m the one who walks her, feeds her, and cleans up after her. Admittedly Maddie is a demon child (she never 100% figured out potty training, she sheds like a mofo, and I baby her like no other), but I love her more than anything in the world. She’s my baby, my responsibility, and – to me- worth it. πŸ™‚

Plus, I don’t mind waking up early to take Maddie out.

Well... for the most part.

I was sleeping in this morning because I had a cycling date with a new friend at 9. She’s going to teach me how to cycle properly; a lesson I’ve been chomping at the bit to learn.

I fueled up for the ride with two pieces of toast with a pumpkin/ peanut butter mix.


The toast was topped with a heated mix of pumpkin (my last can of the season!) and peanut butter, chia seeds, raisins, and apple slices.


It was a warm and comforting breakfast. Now, I’m off to the trail!

Have a great Thursday everyone!

1 Angela @ Eat Spin Run Repeat May 5, 2011 at 8:10 am

Sounds delicious!! Have fun with your friend, and learn lots! πŸ™‚
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2 Hope May 5, 2011 at 8:13 am

Have fun this morning with your friend! πŸ™‚ Love your breakfast! So yummy!
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3 michelle May 5, 2011 at 8:15 am

My husband and I are pretty good about sharing the responsibility for our dog. Whoever gets up first automatically takes the dog out and feeds him. Usually it’s me. I’m usually the one who goes to bed first so he takes the dog out before bed. But then there are times when he gets up early and starts getting ready and the dog is going bonkers jumping all over me on the bed because he has to go out. Not cool!
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4 Miranda @ Working Mom Works Out May 5, 2011 at 8:16 am

I can relate. I get up first, take care of the dogs and Johnny <- he's my son. But when Adams kids are with us, not much changes. I take care of them too. I guess it's part of being a mom.
Enjoy your ride today!
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5 Samantha Angela May 5, 2011 at 8:24 am

Do you think that Derek would act the same way when it comes to children?

Maybe he doesn’t take responsibility for Maddie because she was your dog before the two of you moved in together. It might be different if you have kids that are both yours and his.

6 Kristy @ KristyRuns May 5, 2011 at 8:24 am

As a non-biker, I didn’t realize there was a proper way to ride! Can’t wait to see what you learned! πŸ™‚
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7 Dori May 5, 2011 at 8:44 am

Tell your man to step it up.
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8 Reenie May 5, 2011 at 9:57 am

ITA Dori!!!

9 Marie May 5, 2011 at 1:38 pm

Aww, I have to respectfully disagree with you two… the dog was Meghann’s and Derek didn’t have any say in having the dog, that type of dog, etc. Although my fiance loves my cat like no other, I still have the full responsibility of the care as I did when we lived apart. Now if you get an animal together (which, in my opinion, only married couples should do for obvious reasons) it’s a different story.

10 Dori May 5, 2011 at 2:10 pm

Sarcasm gets lost these days, huh.

11 Amy May 5, 2011 at 7:50 pm

Yeah, you didn’t sound all that sarcastic so ….

12 Dori May 5, 2011 at 7:55 pm

When someone who looks like me says a one-liner like that, it is almost always in jest.

13 Amy May 5, 2011 at 9:07 pm

Good to know, but I’m guessing a lot of people won’t know that right off and think you’re for real. πŸ™‚

14 Biz May 5, 2011 at 8:48 am

My husband doesn’t have to get up at any particular time, but as soon as I get up, our dog, who sleeps on our bedroom floor, immediately jumps in bed to take my place. πŸ˜€

Have a great bike ride!

15 Holly @ The Runny Egg May 5, 2011 at 8:52 am

We’re dog sitting this week and I’m happy to say that Jason takes her out just as much as I do — and I feed her in the AM and he feeds her in the afternoon. Works out pretty good!
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16 CaitlinHTP May 5, 2011 at 8:57 am

Maybe you guys could figure out a way to share it a little more equally? Even though Maddie is ‘your’ dog, now she’s kind of ‘ours’ right?

I take out M&J 95% of the mornings because Kristien likes to sleep in or is really groggy in the morning, and he takes them out 95% of nights. Its a nice compromise!

17 Hallie May 5, 2011 at 4:42 pm

That’s how we do it too. I’m on AM duty (heh heh) and he takes the PM shift. Works well cuz I don’t like going out at night but I enjoy my 10-min AM walk. But Nina is “our” dog and I’m sure my fiance would be the same as Derek if she were just “mine.” However, although I guess the fish is “ours” (er, everything is “ours” now right?) too but he does all fish-related activities.
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18 Jessica May 5, 2011 at 9:05 am

Awww Jackson is crate trained so he goes in his crate at night and he’ll sleep in without whining or anything until 11am if we let him that long. He’s never bothered us at during the night except for the occasional dream/howl – I guess we got really, really lucky. Poor Meghann with your Maddie ;P I always say, Good thing Jackson is cute.. same probably goes for Maddie lol
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19 Anne Weber-Falk May 5, 2011 at 9:12 am

Our family was dog sitting for over a month for my folks. The kids were so excited and promised to help with the pooch every day. That lasted all of five days. I didn’t mind too much though. I liked the quiet time I got when walking the neighborhood. About that potty thing, I found puddle pads are my floors’ friend. I would put a couple at the spots where the dog would have his “accidents”. It sure did save my rugs.

20 Chad @ thebreakupnote May 5, 2011 at 9:18 am

πŸ˜› maybe he’ll read this blog and think “uh oh I need to get on that”. πŸ™‚

I personally like cats. We (my wife and I) have two cats and it’s pretty easy to share the responsibility. She does th elitter box one day, I do it the next.
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21 Jenny @ Fitness Health and Food May 5, 2011 at 9:26 am

Well, not that agree with Derek’s decision but I think that this is why dogs are good to get before having kids and living with a sig other is important before getting married! πŸ™‚ That way you can figure out what works best for you guys.

Looking forward to reading about what you learn about cycling! πŸ™‚

22 Kiran @ May 5, 2011 at 9:38 am

I wish guys share more responsibilities with us gals. Enjoy and have fun biking, it’s a great weather today πŸ™‚
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23 Michelle May 5, 2011 at 9:51 am

Well, the good news is that when you do have kids they will be 50% his and you can yell at him about it πŸ˜‰

I had no idea that there was a proper way to ride! Please share!
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24 Sara May 5, 2011 at 10:07 am

Have fun on the trail! And if you get some useful info please share. I just got a bike and am in desperate need of some advice!

And Maddie is so cute, tottaly worth the effort!

25 Kate (What Kate is Cooking) May 5, 2011 at 10:15 am

Good luck on your cycling date! I’m too scared to ride a real bike… I always fall off!
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26 Stacey May 5, 2011 at 10:16 am

I can definitely relate to the dog responsibility issues with the boy. I have a almost 2 year old Chihuahua and it is the same with me and my boyfriend. And I too baby my pup like no other but if I am home and not out of town, Bowser is all my responsibility( Yes my 6 pound dog is names Bowser :))

I can totally relate πŸ™‚

And so sad about your pumpkin. I have been hoarding my last cans for about 2 monthsssss!

27 Candace May 5, 2011 at 10:20 am

My Jack also sheds like nobody’s business! My now-husband (then-fiance when we bought the dog and lived apart) helps out with Jupe in the a.m. because I’m the first to get home from work in the p.m. But when we got married and first moved in, it took some time to massage out pup-care details. These things have a way of working themselves out naturally — no serious conversations or ultimatums necessary!

28 Elena May 5, 2011 at 10:20 am

Having a dog definitely feels like a trial run for kids to me! When I moved in with my fiance’ and his (now our) dog, we definitely started sharing responsibilities. I don’t know, I couldn’t call myself her puppy mom/our dog if I didn’t take her out/walk her/discipline her just as much as he does! I think he admittedly still pays for more of the dog food etc (more just because of the location of where he works ha) and she’ll always be more of a daddy’s girl, but we split pet fees, etc. I hope you find whatever balance works best for you, but I would definitely say I’d personally feel very uncomfortable not splitting it!

29 Ash @ Good Taste Healthy Me May 5, 2011 at 10:32 am

I understand why he wouldn’t take responsibility for the dog. It was yours beforehand and maybe he just doesn’t want a dog. The potty training issue would drive me bonkers! Does he ever get mad about it?

I’m sure he would be great when it came to kids. I know you didn’t say otherwise but other commenters alluded to this fact. I felt I had to stick up for the guy, haha.
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30 Shanna, Like Banana May 5, 2011 at 10:34 am

Oh we sure love our pets. Luckily my hubby has taken on a lot of the duties of the pets I brought into our relationship, including cleaning the kitty litter every day! Score!

31 Macrae May 5, 2011 at 10:36 am

Seems like you are realizing there are a lot of things you and Derek do a little differently. Good to have these things come to light before things are more serious for y’all as a couple!
Does Derek ever get uneasy when you talk about kids and marriage before you two are engaged? πŸ™‚

32 Shannon May 5, 2011 at 11:03 am

My boyfriend gave me my puppy so he is very helpful with taking care of her. Have fun cyling!
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33 Grace May 5, 2011 at 11:03 am

I really need a cycling lesson…I think I am doing it okay but “real” cyclist pass my like crazy on my bike rides. It’s usually at a time when my legs are burning too so i probably give them really dirty look, not that they can see them since they’re too busy flying past me with ease:) A.k.a. please share what you learn about biking!
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34 Annette @ EnjoyYourHealthyLife May 5, 2011 at 11:11 am

mmm your b-fast looks rockin!

35 Sarah for Real May 5, 2011 at 11:26 am

Have you tried reminding/asking him when the alarm goes off to take her out? I know many people who aren’t thinking clearly until after a shower (myself included). I take our Jack Russel into the bathroom with me while I shower. She curls up on my discarded pajamas and waits patiently.

36 Ellie @ The Mommyist May 5, 2011 at 11:30 am

Have fun with your cycling this morning. Be happy Maddie and Derek don’t wake you up several times in the middle of the night like a kid!
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37 Bri May 5, 2011 at 11:39 am

I have always ejoyed reading your blog, Meghann, but am a little surprised at how you talk about and sometimes rag on your BF on the blog, whether explicitly like today, or subtly, as I’ve noticed you’ve done since you moved in with him. I get that the blog is supposed to represent snapshots of your daily life (love that!) but I can’t imagine that publicly throwing your man under the bus is good for your relationship. That’s none of my business, I know. I just think relationship disputes are best handled privately. But to each his own; maybe I’m just too old fashioned. πŸ™‚

38 Dori May 5, 2011 at 2:29 pm

I see what you are saying Bri, but I think Meghann writes observations like this on purpose, as part of a theme. Something like, “Boys! Can’t live with ’em, can’t live without ’em. Amiright ladies??” It might be hard to express that in writing though.
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39 Bri May 5, 2011 at 2:58 pm

That totally makes sense, Dori. I pick up on it as a theme, as well, and I definitely relate on that level. I understand that it is a light-hearted thing. (And in any event, I don’t personally care or have a vested interest another couple’s relationship.) My comment was an observation that this just seems like an interesting approach and one that wouldn’t even cross my mind to use regarding my husband. I (at least try) apply to my marriage and friendships the Vince Lombardi quote, “Praise in public; criticize in private.”

In the end though, no big deal–it just caught my attention.

40 Emily @ Savory and Savage May 5, 2011 at 11:49 am

On the bright side you have an SO that will take care of Maddie when you are gone.

I think it can be tough for guys to get into the habit of dog care. If it is not a habit it just never occurs to them.

Have fun on your ride!
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41 amanda May 5, 2011 at 12:35 pm

haha…cmon ppl we all complain about our bfs at one time or the other lol and if you dont your lying πŸ˜‰ but I must say I wish kids were like dogs LOL. I just had my first baby and it changes your life COMPLETELY! no more going out whenever etc..but its a good change

42 Laurie May 5, 2011 at 12:48 pm

I can relate also, I have two dogs that I mostly take care of. My husband helps some, but he is a great Dad to our son! Hey, Derek must of done something right, they were both still ‘alive’ when you came home from your trip! So that’s good! πŸ™‚

43 Tami May 5, 2011 at 1:33 pm

i think someone else said this but Derek need to let Maddie out….

44 Marie May 5, 2011 at 1:45 pm

I think this is a great “hot topic” of sorts for the blog but I have to say that sometimes I am completely amazed at the outlook on this by my fellow females. The idea that we as women get to move into a man’s own place, take over with decor, let our pets have free reign and change their wholes lives to accomodate ours is incredibly selfish and a totally passe’ viewpoint (please note, Meghann, I am not saying you are doing exactly this or anything, just sharing how sometimes comments about what Derek should or shouldn’t be able to do boggles my mind… no disrespect).

45 Elena @ GagaForGrapefruit May 5, 2011 at 1:46 pm

Aww that’s why I’m afraid to get a dog because I want to be able to SHARE the responsibility!! Good luck cycling today!
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46 Allie May 5, 2011 at 1:51 pm

why don’t you just ask him to take maddie out? it will at least open the door to a convo, and communication is so key in these situations!

i cycle like such a beginner! would love some tips.

47 Jamie aka "Sometimes Healthy" Girl May 5, 2011 at 1:57 pm

Good luck with the biking!

I used to have a dog and I loved how he woke me up in the morning with kisses πŸ˜‰
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48 Jess May 5, 2011 at 2:39 pm

My fiance and I have a similar problem with our cats! As soon as they hear an alarm go off they know it’s breakfast time and immediately pounce all over us.

However if one of us is getting up before the other, we will shut the bedroom door so the cats can’t keep bothering the other one. Just saying.
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49 Katherine: Unemployed May 5, 2011 at 2:53 pm

I miss pumpkin butter; I haven’t seen that winter-season item in a while
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50 Alaina May 5, 2011 at 3:30 pm

Have fun cycling! That would be cool to know a little bit better.

Aww, Derek will come around and help out with Maddie. πŸ˜‰
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51 Melissa May 5, 2011 at 4:42 pm

I know exactly how you feel! My dog is completely my responsibility unless I am not home, thank goodness we have a back yard though, but even though I am the sole care taker, she still loves my bf more than me… we have contests to see who she will come to, ect and he always wins! When he leaves she lays by the door and waits for him to come back. When I leave, she barely lifts her head to notice I have gone. BTW… this is 2 years later and still no help. πŸ™‚

52 erica May 5, 2011 at 4:45 pm

when i got my dog for my birthday last year, the bf made it clear that it was my dog, and my full responsibility…but little by little that little guy has wormed his way into my bf’s heart, and i see the bf paying more and more attention to the little one and not minding sharing some of the responsibility ;p

53 Emma (Namaste Everyday) May 5, 2011 at 6:23 pm

that breakfast sounds sooooo good! I wish I had some pumpkin over here!
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54 kathleen May 5, 2011 at 6:56 pm

go luck cycling! I think it’s different cycling in florida because it is flat. If you actually had to ride on hills you would probably learn gears quicker. I learned how to use gears while mountain biking on hills. Sort of, if the big and little gears were on opposite hands… I would do much better.

55 Kay May 5, 2011 at 8:40 pm

What’s chia like taste/texture wise just hanging out like that? Someone recently brought a water/lemon juice/chia mix to class, but the seeds looked like jelly once they hit the water & just the thought made me gag. I’m interested in trying it if it’s less awkward solid though!
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56 Meghann May 5, 2011 at 11:35 pm

Chia seeds become jelly when they’re wet. I would suggest starting them off as a topping on toast. πŸ™‚

57 Lauren May 6, 2011 at 2:16 pm

I ALWAYS say it’s a good thing my dog is cute, too…

My boyfriend and I ‘both’ made the decision to get a dog. (I put ‘both’ in quotes because I really was the one who spearheaded that campaign). We adopted a 4-month-old rescue, and the first 2 months were absolute hell. He was teething, and therefore incredibly nippy, and would not get the hang of house training. (Granted, he was just a puppy). I felt incredibly guilty for choosing this dog, despite the fact my boyfriend and I both loved him. Now, almost two years later, he’s an incredibly sweet, well-behaved dog. No more guilt here. πŸ™‚ My boyfriend and I share dog duties pretty evenly…we split the vet bills, take turns walking him/taking him out, etc. The only real difference is that the dog is more playful with my boyfriend, and more content to cuddle with me.

I think that, over time, Derek may come to view Maddie as more of ‘his’ too. It takes several months to get the feel for living together — I know it took my boyfriend and I about 5 or so. Sounds like you guys are doing pretty well so far! All the little issues eventually get fine-tuned.

58 MaryBe May 6, 2011 at 9:04 pm

Well…you state that Maddie is 100% your responsibility, yet seem a little miffed that Derek doesn’t let her out. Which is it? I’m not being mean but you can see where that is a little confusing. I was kind of surprised when Derek kept her while you were gone. She is the cutest dog ever, but she seems pretty umm lively!
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