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  1. Sabrina Alexandra
    June 4, 2015

    I feel like this can go for family too. I really have a problem with #9 on that list. I can not stand when people don’t RSVP to an event in time. I am such a planner that one gets me every darn time. I am the friend/family member that expresses profound irritation through a suppressed sigh and deep pause (and maybe a few choice words). I am working on it, and hopefully I can calm it down before there is a wedding to plan. 😉
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  2. Linda @ The Fitty
    June 4, 2015

    haha number 4 is so accurate!
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  3. AndreaClaire
    June 4, 2015

    I made a decision a few years ago to withdraw from friendships which were high maintenance (drama-filled, high school-esque). It is amazing what that decision has done for my own mental peace. My core group of friends are fantastic, whether we see each other once a week, once a month, or sometimes a few years can go by – thanks friends who don’t live where I live – and I know that when push-comes-to-shove, they will be there for me and I for them.

    Enjoy the no-bullshit, no-drama friendships. They really are the best ones. 🙂

  4. Meghan @RunningKentuck
    June 5, 2015

    This sums up the change in my friendship mentality perferctly! A true friend will love and support you even if you aren’t perfect. Folks spend so much time trying to be perfect that they forget to live!

    Thank you for sharing this! It is a great reminder!
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  5. Erin
    June 5, 2015

    Fantastic! I feel like high school and college had dramatic moments for every woman. Sigh. But right around the time I turned 30 I realized I only wanted people in my life who make me happy and let me be me. It was tough cutting out those that Life is so much more fun when you don’t have to worry about putting forth effort to those who don’t deserve it and can give all of your time to those that do!

  6. Anna
    June 5, 2015

    I feel as I could have written this! I have been kind of dealing with the same stuff. I am like you where I do not mind doing a lot (okay everything) by myself so I don’t think to call friends or text them. I know they are there if I need them or they know I will always be there if they need me. I have been having trouble with the fact that I live states away from my family and friends and have not heard from them as much. It’s been made harder by the fact I am training for a Full IM so a lot of time, energy and money is going towards that and not seeing family and friends. I agree with that you have to be pickier with who you surround yourself with and I am learning on how to do that.

  7. Steph
    June 5, 2015

    Yes. This. Thanks for being you, and being honest. Cheers to no-drama!

  8. lynne
    June 5, 2015

    +1 to this!
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  9. bree
    June 5, 2015

    Great Post! Quiick question…are you still friends with caitlain (HTP)? Im just asking because I used to see so much interaction between the two of you via the blogs, and don’t anymore 🙁

    • Meghann
      June 14, 2015

      Yes, Caitlin is still one of my best friends and we’ve remained very close since she moved to NC. Unfortunately we don’t get to see each other in person as much as when we lived in the same city, but the best part about having a true friend is that when you do reconnect it’s as if no time has passed at all.

  10. Angie
    June 5, 2015

    I LOVE this!! I have some friends that I have know for YEARS…and it feels like we left off right where were started. Then I have a few friends that feel like WORK to be their friend. I don’t like all that mess…I’m too OLD (43 on Monday). I must be your friend’s friend!!( and yours too!! ;-))

  11. Stacey
    June 5, 2015

    I totally agree with this. I have less friends than I did in college, but the ones I do have are those that even if I don’t talk to them for years (save for a facebook post or two), we pick up where we left off and continue on. There is no resentment or “Why didn’t you call?!” Friendship is a two way street, and we frequently have to remind ourselves not to put more into it than the other is willing to.
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  12. Stephanie @ My Freckled Life
    June 6, 2015

    Love this!! I just want to yell AMEN after reading it! Haha. I 100% agree though that a lot of times this seems to be something that comes with age. In college I definitely had a lot more drama in my friendships (and oh God, high school… yikes!), but now in my late 20s I’ve found friends that dont mind if we go weeks without talking, because we can just catch up when we do!
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  13. Lindsay @ lifting in lilly
    June 6, 2015

    I seriously love this. I am constantly feeling like I’m a bad friend/sister/daughter for not making more of an effort to call/visit/check in with people more often. I feel badly and like I’m so busy and it comes off as selfish. But honestly, it goes both ways right? This post was a good reminder that adult relationships don’t have to mean talking everyday, seeing every week, etc.
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  14. Dottie (@crazyfitmommy)
    June 9, 2015

    I think that’s the best part of friendships now that I’m older. I can be honest and tell someone that I’m tired and I just want to sit home in my pajamas and play with my kids instead of hitting a movie, and they’ll ask if they should bring over pizza and their kids or just leave me alone — and they’re completely fine with it if I tell them to leave me alone! 😛
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  15. Amanda
    June 9, 2015

    I love this! I have a pretty smallish group of friends and we all understand one another so well that it’s almost scary. We’ve been friends since 2008 and even though we don’t all live close to one another we try to get together for a trip once a year. They are the people I depend on most. I don’t easily allow people into my circle because I’m definitely a ‘no drama’ person. I’m so lucky to have the friendships I do. I wouldn’t give them up for anything.
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  16. Tricia @ A Couple of Dashes
    June 11, 2015

    This is so great! Thanks for sharing! I’ve been feeling a little stressed about my friend situation lately so this was exactly what I needed to read this morning to make me feel better!
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  17. MelanieF
    June 18, 2015

    This is a really great article! I’m going into my forties next year and I’ve realised that I don’t have that many friends but the ones that I do I actually love very much! I’m a not a phone person either (Thank you Facebook, messenger and text messages) and I do not need other people to make me happy either! I go to the movies alone, I get a good cup of coffee alone (great way to read a good book)! My husband of 11 years totally gets me! That’s why I love him very much and the close friends we have, even if it’s not too many!

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