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Wedding: Ceremony Thoughts

by Meghann on February 4, 2013

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On Friday I shared our ceremony script with you, today I wanted to share what was going on in my head the moments lead up to, during, and after the ceremony.

After the first look, Derek and I took photos with our bridal party and families (I’ll share more about those later), then I was rushed to the bridal suite to hide and wait for the ceremony to start. My stomach was grumbling at this point so one of my bridesmaids grabbed me one of the cookie favors from the table. It was quite honestly one of the most delicious cookies I’ve ever had. Snickerdoodle. Yum.


(photo credit: Ashley)

Man, brides sure do get the short end of the deal in the moments leading up to the wedding ceremony. All I wanted to do was walk outside and greet all my friends and family who had all traveled near and far for the wedding, but I knew I couldn’t leave the room. I was actually jealous of Derek, who could leave, and encouraged him to go and greet everyone as they entered. I was thankful for my bridesmaids who stayed with me. They kept offering me a shot or beer, but I politely declined.

I never hired a day-of coordinator, so I was very nervous about making sure we started on time and everyone knew their place. I requested to speak to my uncle (our officiant) and asked him to double check with the DJ about timing. Turns out, I really had nothing to worry about. Right on time, I got word that the grandmothers were being seated and it was time to start making our way out for the entrance. Three cheers for the punctual DJ!


(photo credit: family friend)

My dad and I hid behind the barn while the bridesmaids and flower girls exited from the barn’s main entrance. My view was obstructed and terrible, but I was able to see a little bit of what was going on. My dad could see a little better and was giving me a play-by-play.

From what I could hear, our flower’s girl entrance was just a cute and memorable as Derek and I were hoping. When we got engaged last January, our niece Marley was barely 7 months old and not even close to walking. We weren’t sure what to expect a year from then, but we knew we wanted her as our flower girl either way. The plan was to have her walk down the aisle on her own, but worse case scenario, I asked her mom to carry her.


(photo credit: Michael Stinson)

We bought Marley a beautiful dress, made her a crown out of baby’s breath and a sign to carry. Marley LOVES her Uncle Bubba (Derek), so our plan was to put the baby’s breath on her head at the last minute, then ask her to bring the sign to “Uncle Bubba.” She did great in rehearsal, but having the chairs full of so many people might have been a different story.


At first she wasn’t sure what was happening and sort of wandered around. Luckily Tyler (her dad) knows his daughter better than anyone and came prepared. Before the ceremony he stashed a container of goldfish behind the alter and pulled them out as Marley was making her entrance. He squatted down and gave the container a good shake to encourage Marley to come forward.


The goldfish worked like a charm. She waited until she got to the end of the aisle, threw her baby’s breath crown off her head, then put her hand out for her goldfish.


(photo credit: Michael Stinson)


(photo credit: family friend)

Only she couldn’t have one until she gave “Uncle Bubba” a kiss.


I missed all of this and am really hoping my videographers caught it on film so I can eventually watch it one day. From what I’ve seen in photos (and heard from friends and family) it was a really touching moment.


(photo credit: family friend)

When the DJ started playing ” Marry Me” by Train, that was our cue to walk. My dad immediately started joking, “look at all these people who came out to see me today.” It made me laugh. ๐Ÿ™‚


(photo credit: family friend)

My first thought was how full all the chairs were. There were a LOT of people there. Did they really come here all for us? Gulp. And now they’re all staring. I hope I don’t trip. It’s really hard to walk in these heels with this dress. “Dad, don’t let me fall.”


Then I caught Derek’s eyes. He had the biggest smile on his face and I had the biggest smile on mine. When I’m really happy/ excited, I make the goofiest faces and my father-in-law later told me how much he enjoyed watching my emotions on my face through the ceremony. When I’m really happy, it’s hard for me to hide it!


I was really tempted to kiss Derek when I finally got to hold his hands (and several other times during the ceremony), but kept reminding myself I had to wait until the end. Do you know how hard it is to wait until the end to kiss your groom?


(photo credit: family friend)

The ceremony flew by. I tried to take in as much of it as I could, but it really did pass in the blink of an eye. My favorite part was when we read our personal vows to each other. I knew almost every word of our ceremony by heart, except for the vows Derek had written. They were his sweet surprise to me and I treasured every word he said.


I was doing so good keeping the tears away… until we got to the vows. I was a lost cause after that.

After the ceremony, Derek and I traded vows. He has the handwritten vows I wrote in his wallet and I have the vows he wrote in mine. If we ever need a gentle reminder of the other’s love or commitment in the future, we can pull the vows out and reflect on the words we exchanged on our wedding day. Heck, I like pulling them out just because. ๐Ÿ™‚


Sealing our vows with a pinky promise was a personal touch that reflected our goofball personalities. I think I saw it on Off-Beat Bride or something and immediately wanted to recreate it. Derek’s face lit up as soon as I told him about it and we immediately inserted it in the ceremony. It was one of my favorite moments from the day. After all, there are no take backs in a pinky promise!


I had moved my engagement ring to my right pinky finger during the ceremony so my left ring finger was empty for the ring exchange. My hands were sweaty from all the nerves and Derek had to give my wedding band a good push to get it over my knuckle. I’m not sure anyone any the audience noticed, but the extra effort made us both laugh.


His went on effortlessly. Now sweaty fingers for Derek!


And that was it. We were officially married! I could finally kiss my groom!





The wedding party followed quickly behind us and it didn’t take long for Tyler to grab me in a big bear hug and call me “sis.”


The tears started flowing immediately. I was so happy to be a part of this family. I had another brother, another sister-to-be, another set of parents, grandparents, etc. Derek’s family was now officially my family and I loved them so much for accepting me with open arms and bear hugs.


Hugs followed with the rest of the bridal party and it was one big, emotional sobfest of happy tears all around.

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We had chosen not to do a receiving line so my bridesmaids immediately pulled me behind the barn for cover. One of them grabbed my cowboy boots and we did a quick shoe change behind the barn.


My feet let out a huge sigh of relief as soon as the boots went on. Best. Idea. Ever.


While our bridesmaids, groomsmen, and guests went on to enjoy cocktails and hors d’oeuvre for the next hour, Derek, our photographer, and I set out on our own for some more portraits.


I’ll be back with another post to share the wedding portraits. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Photo credits: Andrea Hubbell Photography unless otherwise noted

*Other wedding-related posts can be found here*

1 Lauren @ Eat Like An Elephant February 4, 2013 at 3:44 pm

Adorable! I wish I had had a flower girl…but no one we know had a little girl!
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2 deva at deva by definition February 4, 2013 at 3:55 pm

So sweet and so full of emotion.

Your wedding was gorgeous! ๐Ÿ™‚ And you ARE a gorgeous bride!
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3 Running Betty February 4, 2013 at 4:02 pm

The flower girl kissing the groom photo is awesome!
I’ll never forget the look on Brian’s face at our ceremony.
One typo: you said “I had moved my engagement finger to my right pinky finger during the ceremony…”

4 Meghann February 4, 2013 at 4:03 pm

haha – good catch! thanks!

5 Taylor B February 4, 2013 at 4:03 pm

I walked down the aisle to “Marry Me” by Train this summer at my wedding too! It is such a perfect song for the entrance. Your ceremony looked absolutely beautiful ๐Ÿ™‚
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6 Emily February 4, 2013 at 4:10 pm

My husband and I chose to greet people as they arrived for my ceremony. I am glad we did it…people were pleasantly surprised to greet us and it gave both of us something else to focus on so the excitement and anticipation didn’t get too intense. ๐Ÿ™‚ We had seen another friend do this and loved the idea.

7 Meghann February 4, 2013 at 4:17 pm

Looking back, I totally would have done this. Waiting in that room while all the action is happening outside is no fun!

8 Annette @FitnessPerks February 4, 2013 at 4:15 pm

What a beautiful place to get married! I love all the personal touches you had too ๐Ÿ™‚
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9 Maureen February 4, 2013 at 4:17 pm

Cute flower girl moment!
I was in tears…my dad said the SAME exact thing to me about everyone being there to see him. It totally made me laugh and calmed my nerves for the walk down the aisle :that all of a sudden seemed so LOOONNG}!!
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10 jobo February 4, 2013 at 4:26 pm

Aww! that was so beautiful to read! I’ve been following along loosely over the time since you got engaged (loved your proposal!) and these pictures are beautiful! congrats!
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11 Rana@Life Love Pursuit of Running February 4, 2013 at 4:45 pm

Love the post about what was going through your head during your ceremony. All the pictures are beautiful! Funny thing, I actually did kiss my husband early. It was after he said his personal vows. I was so amazed by the beautiful words and fell in love with him all over again and I gave him a kiss. People all laughed and I’m embarrassed after, but in the moment I had to ๐Ÿ™‚
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12 Angela February 4, 2013 at 6:36 pm

Gorgeous photos! So funny to see the random thoughts throughout your wedding! Walking down the aisle I kept sayin to my dad, “Aren’t they supposed to be standing? Dad why aren’t tey getting up?” It was pretty awkward, no one wanted to be the first one to stand I guess so no one did til I was halfway down the aisle. Weird that that is what I was worried about?! Haha
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13 Laura February 4, 2013 at 6:45 pm

Your bouquet is beautiful! What kind of flowers are in there, if you don’t mind me asking? ๐Ÿ™‚

14 Beth @ Running with the Sunrise February 4, 2013 at 6:57 pm

Your photos turned out so well! You guys really picked a great photographer. Thanks for sharing your day with us–it has been so fun getting to look through all of your photos!
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15 Kellie February 4, 2013 at 7:22 pm

Nothing against your wedding, but why are all these posts being placed on your main blog as opposed to the “Wedding” page?

16 MealsAndMiles February 4, 2013 at 8:20 pm

All the main recaps of the wedding are going on the main page and all the details leading up to the event are on the wedding page.

17 Joelle (on a pink typewriter) February 4, 2013 at 7:24 pm

Love your photos! What a sweet day, and amazing photo of the boots! That’s Pinterest worthy. ๐Ÿ˜‰

18 Rebecca@Running.Food.Baby. February 4, 2013 at 9:20 pm

It is sooo true – brides miss so much of the beginning of the ceremony! I didn’t like that one bit!
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19 Reenie February 4, 2013 at 11:47 pm

Love hearing about your wedding. Beautiful.

20 Debbie B. February 5, 2013 at 5:52 am

I am digging the cowboy boots. The switch pictures are so cute.

21 Jane February 5, 2013 at 11:31 am

Your wedding looks like it really was beautiful and touching all around!
Thanks for sharing – I love all the little personal details.

Those are what makes a wedding so special!

22 Ellen H. December 20, 2015 at 3:42 pm

LOL, very cute and just another way that you can turn something bad into something that works well. ๐Ÿ™‚

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