I’m not going to lie, wedding band shopping was definitely up there as one of my top 5 I Can. Not. Wait. wedding planning related activities. I mean, who doesn’t love shopping for jewelry?!
Even Derek was excited about one. He’s been researching different options online for months now and was looking forward to finally trying some styles on.
Yesterday was our first round of wedding band shopping. Neither of us went in assuming we’d walk out with our wedding bands that day, it was more to get a feel of what was out there and to get the ball rolling on what we thought. It’s one thing to browse options online, it’s another to see them in person and actually try them on.
Derek was fairly easy. Actually, men’s rings in general are fairly easy. He already knew what he didn’t want (no yellow gold, no “bling,” no funky designs, etc.) and had an idea of what he semi-wanted (something durable, something flat and smooth, something lighter in color, etc.). Really, his goal yesterday was to get a feel for the contemporary metals out there (that’s what he was leaning towards) and what width would work best for his finger.
It should be noted that the first ring Derek tried on, he slipped on his right hand. I informed him it’s supposed to go on his left and he told me, “shows how much I know about all of this.” 😉
After talking to 3 separate jewelers, Derek walked out with pretty much the same ideas he went in with, but now he feels more educated about it. We both really liked the contemporary metals because A) they look cooler, B) they’re the best bang for your buck, and C) these rings are built to last.
Personally, I was leaning towards the lighter cobalt ring, but Derek said he preferred the tungsten. Tungsten rings are extremely heavy and hard, they’re scratch resistant and there’s no need to worry about bending or warping over time. They’re a little on the darker side and have a nice shine to them (aka they look pretty badass).
Tungsten is not recommended for people who work a lot with their hands (since they can not be cut off and can be dangerous if the finger accidentally gets caught in something and swells), but since Derek works at a desk all day, he isn’t worried – just as long as he takes his ring off before he does anything crazy. He also needs to watch the ring in case he gains weight over the years. I know my dad has had THREE wedding bands cut off over the years, which is something that Derek wouldn’t have the option to do with the tungsten.
I’m actually thinking about getting a smaller version of whatever ring Derek gets to wear when on occasions I’m not comfortable wearing my wedding rings (such as on vacation or during races). This was an idea Sabrina gave me years ago (she did the same thing with her rings) and I think it’s a good one. 🙂
Now that Derek knows what he wants, his plan is to do a little research on pricing and see what’s out there. Luckily we still have time (6 months!) so there isn’t a huge rush and he has time to figure it all out.
While Derek’s was pretty easy, mine turned out to be a bit of a challenge. It wasn’t just picking out a band that I liked, BUT also selecting one that went with my engagement ring since, you know, they’re going to become pretty close friends over the next so many years.
Here’s the problem. As gorgeous as my ring is, it’s a fairly simple setting (which is actually what I love about it since I’m a fairly simple person). Because of that, I was initially all set to go the plain band route, but then I started trying on friends’ “blinged-out” wedding bands and realized that I wanted something a little “blingy.” The problem is finding something with “bling” that works with my ring.
Here’s the plain band for reference’s sake.
Obviously I would prefer a flatter band over the rounded one, but you can see how nice they look together.
And here’s a few of the “bling” options I tried on.
Those are just a few, I’m pretty sure I tried on every ring in every store. It might have felt a bit excessive at the time, but it actually helped narrow down what I did or didn’t like and gave me a clearer idea of what I want and what works. For example, I now know I’d prefer a 2mm ring with 6 stones in a prong setting. Anything that expanded beyond 6 stones looked off.
However, even with that knowledge, something was still missing. Sapphires.
I had tried on my grandmother’s sapphire and diamond anniversary band (which my mom now wears on her pinky finger) at the beach house last week and LOVED the way it looked with my ring. After that, none of the more traditional rings I tried on seemed to work. The idea of having sapphires in my band was stuck.
They had a few sapphire band options at the stores we visited, but still not exactly what I wanted. Either the sapphire’s coloring was too light, the setting was off, or the band was too wide. Each store we spoke with said the same thing – in order to get what I want, I’d have to customize it… which is exactly what I now plan on doing.
(source: bluenile.com Still not 100% what I want, but a good idea of it)
Honestly, since Derek had to have my engagement ring custom built, it only makes sense that I would need to do the same thing for my wedding band. It’s something I’m excited about it. I now have a clear idea of what I want and I can’t wait to work with a jeweler to make that vision come to life!