Whenever I tell anyone that Derek and I are getting married in January, they say congrats. When I tell them that my little brother just got married in February and my sister is getting married this month, their eyes get really big and they respond with, “your poor, poor parents – you guys couldn’t spread it out a little, could you?”
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard similar statements since the moment Derek and I got engaged and our wedding date was set. To the outside world, we are a crazy family. Three weddings in under one year and a set of parents who – thankfully – are very supportive through them all.
Everyone always asks about my parents first and their take on the whole thing. Honestly? I’ve never heard a negative thing come out of either of their mouths over the matter. Not even when they had to postpone certain trips because all their vacation days were wrapped in wedding stuff, not even when my sister or I took them to the upteenth venue to look at, not even when I had the “budget talk” with them in January (about 7 months after my sister had a similar talk with them), and not even when I asked my Dad if he minded if we had our wedding the day before his 50th birthday. They’ve been troopers and – you know what? – I think they love every minute of it.
One day I did ask my dad what was really going on in his head with three back-to-back weddings, and he told me that him and my mom saw it coming just based on how long all of us had been dating our significant others. They’re both hungry for grandchildren (they have serous grandbaby fever) and were hoping we would all settle down soon anyways. “If all the weddings have to happen in a row – even better.”
The same support can be said with all of my siblings. We try not to step on each other’s toes with planning and are respectful of the other couple’s decisions. Instead of pouting about the weddings being so close – we’re happy and excited about them!
Personally, I love that our weddings are so close, especially since mine is last in line. I’ve learned so much about the wedding planning process (something I knew little about before) from Kelly and Ashley. They’re great with “Don’t make the same mistake as I did with…” or “uncle x didn’t RSVP to either of ours – you can probably skip him in the headcount” or just plain learning from trial and error along the way. It’s also fun to see how some things play out (Kelly is DIY-ing her flowers) before deciding to do it for my own wedding (one of the perks of being last 😉 ).
I love my sisters and love bouncing ideas off of them. We share pinterest boards and are constantly emailing, tweeting, and texting back and forth with ideas. It’s great to have sisters that are going through the same thing and you can bond with through the process.
I think the final question people always ask is, “What about your twin brother? Is he going to be heading to the altar anytime soon?” The short answer is, not that I’m aware of. He does have a serious girlfriend (who we all love and adore), but they’re both in residency and are about to be a couple of timezones away from each other. They have time – lots of time – and aren’t in a rush to figure everything out just yet.
Do you have siblings? Were your weddings spread out or back-to-back?