I don’t plan to change my last name.
Wait, let me take that back. What I meant to say is, I don’t plan to change it completely. I’m going the hyphen route. Come January 5th, I’ll be Mrs. Meghann Anderson-Russell. Has a nice ring to it, right?
This isn’t a new revelation, it’s just always been my plan. Ask my high school boyfriend – it scared the crap out of him when i told him so matter-of-factly over dinner one night (not in a creepy one-day-we’ll-get-married type of way, but in a this-is-just-a-decision-I’ve-made sort of way). 😉 I’m not even 100% sure why the topic came up, it was just one of those random statements.
“I never plan to change my last name.”
“Not even when you’re married?”
“Not even when I get married.”
For some reason the idea really bugged this particular boyfriend, and he wasn’t the only one. I’ve had a couple of other boyfriends over the years that weren’t fond of the idea either, they didn’t even like the whole hyphen route. I guess it’s a good thing those relationships didn’t work out.
I knew that eventually I would find a guy who would respect my decision to want to keep my last name. He was out there – somewhere – and I did find him. When I told Derek that I didn’t want to change my last name when I got married (before we even talked about ever getting engaged) he just shrugged his shoulders and said “If that’s what you want – that’s cool.” He knew my mind was made up on the matter from the beginning and totally respected that. We’ve talked through it multiple times since then and – you know what? – he asked me to marry him anyways. I love that man.
The truth is, I like my name. I’ve been Meghann Anderson since I was born. It’s who I am and I don’t see how keeping that part of me is really that big of a deal. So my last name will be a little more complicated with a hyphen thrown in at the end. Big deal. It’s my decision and I accept any complications that come with it. 🙂
When the topic of future last names comes up with friends or family, I like to watch their reactions when I tell them that I’m keeping my last name and going the hyphen route. They almost always immediately look at Derek, or – if he’s not there – they’ll immediately ask what his opinion is on the manner. Funny how that works.
I think the biggest question after “What does Derek think?” comes “What about when you guys have kids?” Good question. Here’s where it get’s blurry. I’m not opposed to them having his last name (with Anderson as a middle name, perhaps?) or even Anderson-Russell. There’s no absolute answer yet and we’re ok with that. We’ll cross that bridge when we get there. We still have a few years to think it over. 😉
So that’s the story of my future last name. I’ll be Meghann Anderson-Russell and I couldn’t be more excited about it. 🙂
How did you decide what to do with your last name? Did you always know you would change it/keep it or was it a decision that came later?